Your family is one of the most precious gifts in your life and should always be there for you in good and bad times. The relationships you have with your family should be the ones that can’t break you.
Sometimes, however, it is good to distance yourself from a toxic family member and cut off all ties. It is important to understand that it feels good to be part of a healthy family relationship, but to be honest with yourself when life is not going well. If your family members are negative about you or reject your attempts to help them, this can be a sign that you are dealing with a “toxic” person. They put you at risk for depression, anxiety, depression and other mental health problems.
Spending too much time with someone who is only focused on the negative can be a burden, especially if you try to look bad. Even if you do your best to offer support and a more positive perspective, it can make you feel bad. This means that you will end up in an impossible situation and get more stress and anxiety.
If you are negative all the time and don’t want advice or help, stop helping and reassess your relationship. Of course, you deserve the occasional bleeding session, but if it’s just one, and you don’t want your counselling and help to stop that.
If you are afraid to meet someone who treats you disrespectfully or drinks too much and you want to be healthy and happy, look elsewhere. If you are always judgmental and say things like “your salary is so low compared to mine, I can’t believe what you’ve been wearing” or “I constantly rate you,” you should reconsider your relationship. Sometimes she tells you something you don’t want to hear, but sometimes you need some tough love. A caring family member is not afraid to give you harder love, and if you show it constantly, it will make a big difference.
You should remember that you deserve respect and should not disrespect anyone.
It can be frustrating and exhausting to be around people who almost never admit that something is their fault or that they have made a mistake. While this should not diminish the fact that there is nothing wrong with you, your family members, or even your own life, you should beware of a family member who thinks that everything that goes wrong in your life is your fault.
Always playing the victim, believing that the universe is out to get you, never taking responsibility for your mistakes, and believing in a universe that “gets you out.”
Another sign of toxicity is that almost every day’s work is always done with a sense of drama. You always run from one emergency to the next and the situation at home and at work gets out of control. By constantly telling them how bad you are, even if it only takes a few minutes or even an hour.
You can try to put them in a dramatic state to make their lives more exciting and get their attention. You make everything a big deal because you love the drama and seem to love it because it’s a constant battle.
You are inconsistent in the way you treat them and look after them, while insulting them and calling them by their names next time. You take care of them in a moment, but you’re contradictory and that shouldn’t happen to you.
You just want to get their attention and manipulate them into doing what you want, and that’s why you’re willing to do your best to control them.
Then they lure you back into their trap, offer support and pseudo-praise, and offer to turn one from a negative into a positive reinforcement, in order to offer you support or pseudo-praise.
In most cases, they seek emotional comfort and support, so you need to reassess your relationship. If you are on the ground and need help, you are ready to talk to them and always provide help.
They are busy when they are sad and need help, and distance themselves as soon as they get what they want.
They are toxic because they keep telling you to stop behaving in a certain way, but you just ignore them. They simply ignore the state they are in and continue to ask for help when it suits them and ignore it.
Without healthy boundaries, you may not be able to emotionally protect yourself from reaching for them. Do not take your own limits for granted and live with the fact that you are exceeding your limits.
In some cases this means distancing oneself from them, but in more severe cases it means cutting them out of life. When a toxic family member makes the most of it, it is time to make a change, even if it is only for a few days.