Women have a long history of being told how and when they should approach love by society.
They are reminded of their biological clock every time they wake up. If a woman is not romantically associated with a guy, she is made to feel worthless. Women are counseled in society on the type of partner, lifestyle, and career they should pursue. As they say, it’s terrible out there.
Despite the communal anguish and animosity, a few women defy the judgement with their courage. Gwen Stefani would undoubtedly fit the bill. She has solidified her image as one of pop culture’s most daring and cool ladies in recent years by chasing love at the age of 50.
No Doubt’s frontwoman marries country musician Blake Shelton on July 3, 2021. We can learn the following from her midlife milestone:
Gwen’s “dreams were shattered” when she found out about her husband’s infidelity.
Gwen Stefani met Gavin Rossdale in 1995 at a holiday concert with No Doubt and Bush for radio station KROQ. Kingston, Zuma, and Apollo are the couple’s three children, who were born in 2002 at St. Paul’s Church in London. It had been a nice marriage until Gavin’s side turned sour.
Gavin’s affairs became public in 2015, including a three-year romance with the family nanny. After Apollo was born in 2014, Gavin allegedly had sex with his nanny, while other reports claim he used to bring Mindy on tour with him while his kids dozed off next to her while she had sex. There’s no way to confirm every rumor is true, but there’s solid evidence Gavin cheated on his thirteen-year-old wife.
Gavin’s affair with the nanny was confirmed, and the marriage terminated in a typical Hollywood scandal. The whole incident was a terrible, tacky embarrassment for Gwen, who ran for cover as the mainstream media dissected her husband and scrutinized every element of her life.
In an interview with Glamour, Gwen shared a devastating story about her ordeal. It was only the beginning of hell. She claimed she would have told everyone if she hadn’t had to keep her mouth shut for her children’s sake. The singer returned to work and quietly dealt with her fast crumbling marriage.
It’s the most terrifying moment of your life, and it demonstrates your true strength. She prayed, as she often does in difficult times. She couldn’t let Gavin’s heinous actions overtake her; she had to protect her children and defend herself.
Cheating is, sadly, one of life’s most common occurrences. You’re one of the lucky ones if you’ve made it this far without confronting it in any form — as the aggressor or the victim. It may appear to be a little detail, but it has long-term consequences for those concerned. Being a victim can have a negative impact on your self-esteem and confidence.
When you’re disillusioned with love, it’s difficult to place your trust in someone and truly rely on them to complete you in any manner, shape, or form. Gwen isn’t simply brave for enduring the ordeal in public; she also opened her heart to someone new in just a few months. It worked out well.
In November 2015, Gwen and Blake met on The Voice. A close co-working relationship turned into a love story that transformed both of their lives. Gwen and Blake were both going through the same thing at the same time, so they were able to connect without having to go into detail about their feelings.
Gwen recounts how they both suffered with trust difficulties in the beginning, but that they were able to overcome them through empathy and communication. Finding love so soon after “months and months of pain” was a “miracle.”
Furthermore, dating in your late forties and fifties has an unappealing connotation attached to it, as if women of a particular age are suddenly unattractive and so unworthy of love. We get the feeling that they’re either vengeful cougars trying to relive their youth or unhappy, lonely ladies who can’t seem to find love. Gwen and Blake’s relationship proves that love never dies and that it doesn’t matter how many heartbreaks you’ve had as long as you can find happiness. We shouldn’t be concerned with whether or if older women are attractive — they are, as long as they believe they are.
Don’t listen to what other people say — love isn’t concerned with your age, background, career, status, or anything else. People who have experienced true love understand that it is possible to find and keep love at any age. Allow yourself to be consumed on your own terms, and your heart will follow. Indeed, as we grow older, our life experiences make us more capable of receiving and relishing love.
Given Gwen’s ability to overcome her traumas and build a future with Blake at the age of 50, there’s nothing stopping you from finding your true love. Love isn’t composed of contrived pressures as society is.